How To Make Your Teen-Parent Relationship Work
As your child approaches teenage –around 12-13 years old- you’ll experience some changes in him or her. They will probably be out of the house more often and wants to keep their privacy from you. Other times, they may not be listening to you nor doing what you ask them.
Many parents experience the same troubles when dealing with their teens. Hope you don’t get them. But if you do, don’t worry! Keep on reading to get solutions.
Just like when you were a teenager, you wanted to spend time with your peers rather than with your parents or family, right? Your teen feels the same way, too. Making their own decisions is another important thing for them besides privacy.
Now, do you think your teen is out of control and never wants to listen to you?
Don’t give up! Of course, you can help deal with the situation. The best way to do it is to strengthen your relationship with them. But how?
Here are some practical steps to help:
1. Talk with them more – It’s better if you start the conversation. It can be just “How was your day ?” Try to discuss many things instead of interrogating them. Find interesting topics, such as sport, entertainment, friends, and school experience to make it relaxing.
2. Listen to them – If they reveal and confide their criticism to you, listen to them and ask what they expect you to do. Talk about this wisely, not emotionally. It’s good for them to be able to express their feeling.
3. Set rules for them – Your teen needs to recognize what is and isn’t acceptable and what the consequences of misbehavior are. Therefore you should set, or precisely, negotiate some rules with your teen to keep them on track.
4. Consider their point of view – Regard your teen as your friend and respect their opinion whenever you discuss something. This also shows that you pay attention to him or her and consider them as important.
5. Encourage your teen by participating and showing interest in their hobbies and talent – Most teens like to try new things. Let them choose what he or she desires, and advise accordingly. Giving them support is the best you can do, while you keep monitoring that the new activity is safe for them. This idea is a good way of teaching your teen to be responsible for things they do.
6. Do things together – This one is surely a great opportunity for you to improve your relationship with your teen. Why? ‘Cause you probably haven’t had much time to spend with him or her. Arrange agenda for the whole month. Think of exciting activities you both can do together. For example, in the first week, play video games together on Saturday, while on the next day both of you can go bowling or swimming at the beach.
In conclusion, warm and positive communication without underestimating your teen is key to a successful relationship between the two of you. Clearly, it won’t work at once. Try the tips progressively and enjoy your time being a parent of a teenager.